LIFE LESSONS - Miscarriage Misstep

Dear Elaine,

A friend we know suffered a miscarriage. She was 6 weeks along and had not yet announced the pregnancy. Her husband shared the news with us. Should I send her a card/note? These are not GREAT friends but people we do see a few times per year.

Dear friend,


Since your friend's husband did share the news of the miscarriage with you all, it's perfectly fine to send a simple note expressing your condolences for her loss.

Be sure to avoid saying things such as "It was God's will" or "Maybe something was wrong with the baby and this is nature's way of handling it". Suffering a miscarriage carries the same emotion of grieving for the death of a loved one so it's important you remain sensitive. Don't mention things about "Next time..." and such, the couple may really need time to heal before trying to get pregnant again. Just keep your message short and simple. Something along the lines of: "We're very sorry to hear of your loss, our prayers are with you during this difficult time" should be sufficient.

Be well

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ELAINE'S EVERYDAY STYLE - Houseguest Dos & Don'ts

Over the next several weeks many people will take vacations but not all will stay in a hotel. Some will spend everything from just a few days to weeks with family or friends. I have a few tips on how you can be the perfect houseguest, have an enjoyable time AND get invited back1

Don’t bring too much luggage - The easiest way to immediately irritate your host is to show up with way too much stuff. Just pack sensibly and try not to take up too much space.

Pack proper clothing and gear such as swimwear or sports gear - Find out in advance what type of activities you’ll be doing during your stay and then arrive prepared. You don’t want to have to borrow things from your host. You can also avoid making impulse purchases that can take you out of your vacation budget.

Do bring some cash of your own to have on hand - Have funds available if you go out to dinner or a movie. You should not expect your host to pay for your expenses on outings. It is a nice gesture to bring a simple gift with you when you arrive such as a special coffee, a bottle of wine or a food basket. Just be creative! Or you might even want to treat them for a night out. This would be a nice gift and help alleviate the workload. CONTINUE

LIFE LESSONS - Father of the Bridal Shower

This week's question touches on an age-old tradition that has brides asking what to do today.

Dear Elaine,

Can you tell me if it is customary to invite the father of the bride and groom to the bridal shower? What about the groomsmen? Are they allowed to attend the shower?
Hello,


No it is not customary to invite the Father of the Bride and Groom. This includes the groomsmen as well. That's the cut and dry answer. Let me add this though. Today weddings and the events surrounding them are changing and evolving to reflect today's modern society. So in my opinion I believe it's perfectly fine as it reflects our times today.

That being said, if you'd like to be creative and include these individuals making it a coed shower then by all means do so. Just keep in mind the dynamics of the shower should change as well. Female oriented games that are generally played at showers might have to be adjusted or not done at all.

You should also keep in mind the sensitivity with the opening of the gifts. The men may not want to sit in on that particular part of the soiree. I’m not sure how well it would go over with a father having to see his daughter open box after box of ladies lingerie (smile).

I hope this helps,

Elaine

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EVERYDAY STYLE- Summer Office Attire

Now that we are in full swing of the hot summer months what we wear to work can sometimes be a bit challenging.

Many employers allow staff members to dress business causal at least one day each week. The heat causes most of us to wear fewer clothes and that’s perfectly fine--- to an extent.

It’s important to keep in mind this is still the office and your choice of clothing can dictate how seriously you are taken. So the question I hear most is “What is proper summer office attire”? CONTINUE